Settled in the couch corner with my laptop and working through my to-do list — schedule Rachel’s orthodontist appointment, research a new Spanish curriculum for the girls, order the next violin book for —
“Mama, I just want to snuggle,” Prairie says, plopping down next to me and curling close. She chats about her hair, aerial silks, the dog, her sinus headache…
Back to my list — I search for mattresses which the boys will need for college next month —
“Mama, can you rub my shoulder right here. It hurts.” I move my computer from my lap and turn to dig my fingers deep into Lincoln’s muscle.
Next on my list — pay the credit card —
Rachel settles beside me without a word, waiting for me to look at her. I glance up, knowing I will see her smile, the one that says “I want you to pay attention to me but I don’t want to ask you to pay attention to me.” Her back is conveniently located within my hand’s reach. Just in case I should feel like giving her a scratch.
Soon after, I run up the stairs to change clothes. I have 5 minutes to get ready for a 3 o’clock meeting in town. “Mama,” says Sidney, catching me midway up the stairs, “I have a video to show you. I think it will make you smile.”
I think about my to-do list. I should start every day’s list with “Focused, in-the-moment, attention to each child.”
Lest I forget … while they do need me to be a responsible adult who pays the bills, schedules their dental needs, plan for their education … they need hugs, an attentive ear, massaging fingers, an interested eye, and a scratching hand more. They need all the things that say “Love.”
Or maybe my to-do list can be squashed to one word — mothering.
4 thoughts on “Doing all the things”
You are absolutely right. Mothering is the one that matters. Everything else will still be there when they are grown and gone. And that will happen all too soon. Just keep loving those great kids and feel lucky they still want you to!
Lovely. The image brings a smile to my face.
Well written and oh so true. I needed this message today. Thanks
You are such a blessed Mama! I love how you and your (grown) kids are so connected!